The boys had their 15mo check up with the pediatrician yesterday and he said for the most part they are doing great! Nate weighed in at 20lbs 7oz. Mitch was 19lbs 10oz and little Eli was 18lbs 2oz. The boys are small even for their adjusted age, but we Probeyahns are not large people to begin with! However, Eli has been diagnosed officially as "failure to thrive" because he only gained 4oz in almost 4 months. We will be bringing him back to the GI specialist who will probably put him back on meds for reflux as he still vomits quite frequently. However he is a great eater! Probably the best of all three when it comes to finger foods. So it is a little frustrating that he just isn't growing as he should.

As far as motor skills they are doing well. Mitch and Nate walking and climbing. Eli isn't far behind! He is taking as many as 10-12 steps at a time and it will only be a matter of days before he is walking as well as his brothers. He is one determined little dude! He sees them walking and getting praise and he wants it too! Due to his Sandifer's Syndrome his core muscles just aren't as strong as the other two so activities like crawling and walking become a little more challenging for him. But I am so proud of his progress thus far!

All the boys are saying words and have quite the vocabulary already! Nate was the first to say a clear word that he associated with the correct object. The word? DUCK! :) The boys also say mama and dada of course as well as bye-bye, all done, hi, cheese, apple, ba-ba, go, ball, book, fish and something that sounds a lot like thank-you! They also know a few signs to go with their words like Mommy and Daddy, more, and all done.

They really love music and Elmo. They will sing E-I-E-I-O with Old MacDonald, they will roll their hands to The Wheels on the Bus, they will clap to Happy and You Know It and they really love the Jewel song Sammy the Spider. Elmo videos play often in our house as it will catch their attention and give mama a break for 30 minutes to do things like laundry, dishes, and blog! :)

We go for walks once or twice a day and the boys really love being outside. Unfortunately, at the moment we do not have a yard for them to play in but I will sometimes let them crawl around in the field across the street where we walk around the pond. They are so cute they way they are fascinated by the grass and they way it feels. We are in the process of buying a house and pretty soon the boys will have a nice fenced in yard to play in every day! I can't wait!

Sleep is still a challenge though naptimes have gotten better! We have gone down to just one nap a day and they will sleep from 11a-1p (give or take 30min). They wake up happy and refreshed and it.is.AWESOME. However during this transition time it is still tough for them to stay awake late in the afternoon so I am often trying to find ways to entertain them during that 5pm-7pm hour where they want to nap. If I let them sleep at ALL during that time they will nap for 15-45 minutes and then be up until midnight. However, even when I don't let them sleep during that time bedtime is still a challenge. These boys just don't like to sleep!! Its usually 9 or 10pm before I can get all three to sleep. And its a rare night where they sleep thru the night. They never sleep more than 9hours. We are usually up for the day by 530 (Although since the time change its been more like 6-7). I keep hoping and praying they will grow out of this and give us some reprieve!

Our goals for the months to come:

• SLEEP!
• No more bottles
• Drink from a straw
• No more mushy baby food - all finger foods and what the rest of the family eats
• Expanded vocabulary

And of course, some updated photos!

What makes a baby a good sleeper? Why do some sleep 12hrs a night from 6weeks old when others (like mine!) never seem to get the hang of sleeping more than 6hrs at a time? Is it parenting methods? Sleep training? Genetics? Plain ol' luck?? I have to think its a bit of everything. There doesn't seem to be some magical formula that works for everyone. There are hundreds of books about it. Even more forum and blog posts. Doctors say one thing, your mom will say another, while your peers have another opinion still. It is confusing and overwhelming.

Being 28wk preemies, our boys spent their first 2-3 months in the NICU where we had no control over their feeding and sleeping schedule. When they came home it was overwhelming. They had monitors, oxygen tanks, feeding tubes, reflux, medications, problems with sucking reflex and latching, and then there is the fact that there are THREE of them! With all that to deal with, sleep training was low on our priority list. We did whatever it took to get them to sleep so that WE could get some sleep too. In the early months because of their reflux they slept swaddled in their infant swings. We eventually transitioned them to their cribs but at that point they were so used to being rocked to sleep that we would spend hours rocking them.

When they got to a point where they were healthier - Eli got his feeding tube out, Mitch and Eli were allowed to come off the oxygen, Nate was cleared of needing a shunt - and they were eating well and more a on a schedule during the day, we started considering their sleep issue and how to tackle it. We had then at 6 months old and still currently at 14 months have 4 main problems:

1. They do not nap well during the day. We are lucky to get 20-40 minute naps from them twice a day and seldom at the same time. Plus, they rely on bottles or being rocked to fall asleep.
2. They do not fall asleep at night well. We spend 2+hrs every night getting them to sleep.
3. They seldom sleep through the night (meaning 8hrs - I can only dream of 12hr sleep sessions!). Usually 1 or 2 of them wake at least once, sometimes twice, in the middle of the night. There is no pattern to it, it is never the same baby waking and fighting sleep each night.
4. They wake up around 5:30 every morning and are up for the day. One wakes and cries and it wakes the others. They do not play in their cribs quietly. For awhile they would sit in their seats and watch a video so we could sleep a little longer but now they just want to play and that means we are up for the day too.

When we first started the sleep training process I was a big believer in the Cry-it-Out (CIO) method. I did it with my older son Jordan and it worked. It sucks going through it, but it worked. I had been pushing to do it for some time but with Mitch and Eli being on oxygen I just didn't have the support. Even when they got off the oxygen the concern over letting them cry too long and hard, and that affecting their breathing, was a big one. But we gave it a shot. We tried for over two months at both bed time and nap time. It did seem to improve matters but it didn't solve them. Most nights we spent well over two hours going through the process of letting them cry, soothing them, letting them cry, etc... until they would finally pass out. The more we let them cry, the more they egg each other on. One gets louder, another responds by getting louder too, and so on. If we let them get too upset they choke on their snot from crying and throw up. Every one of them has done it at some point. Then we have screaming babies AND a mess to clean up!

We have tried separating them (when we can) but our place is SOOO small. We have a two bedroom 1200sq ft single story villa we live in. The babies' "nursery" is a 100sq ft "room" off our living room that used to be our back porch. We built it out into a walled in room but there is no door. Where the sliding glass doors used to be is now curtains, mostly to help with keeping light out of their room from the rest of the house. My 9-yr-old has his own room at the front of the house and on the nights he is with his dad we put a baby to sleep in a pack and play in there. We also keep a pack and play in our room. So we tried letting them cry-it-out separately. Even though they eventually went to sleep, it didn't seem to help, even after an entire week of that attempt.

My husband is always searching the internet for ideas and solutions and he came across an article that is very against cry-it-out. It stated at that the baby doesn't fall asleep because he is learning to self soothe rather he falls asleep out of exhaustion. It says the baby feels a sense of abandonment and hopelessness that sticks with them for life. It was a pretty extreme article. But it was enough for my hubby to take a stand against the cry-it-out, which he never really liked in the first place. So on to something else...

We keep a regular schedule, every morning and every night. During the days the schedule varies depending on whats going on - ie. therapies, doctor appointments, picking Jordan up from school, outings and playdates, my work schedule, etc... But every morning they get a milk bottle when they wake then its breakfast at 8am. At night they eat dinner about 530-6, bath at 645, then its nighttime bottle and bedtime attempt starting 7-730. This is the same always. We have a rule that no naps are allowed after 4pm. So schedule is not the issue.

On a good day for us they will fall asleep drinking their nighttime bottle and stay asleep. On a bad night they drink their milk then cry and cry and cry. They will fight sleep until late - sometimes 11 or 12. And its not all of them. Its usually one sometimes two. But its never the same one or two. Then when they wake in the middle of the night its never the same pattern either. Every night we spend at least 2 hours trying to get them to fall asleep and stay asleep.

When they wake at night we first attempt to just pat their back and not pick them up. This hardly EVER works. Mostly it makes them cry louder and fight our attempts, thus risking waking the other two babies. So then we pick them up and rock them. Often this will do the trick but can take anywhere from 15 minutes to an hour to achieve. If they don't relax with just rocking we offer a water bottle. As a last resort, if nothing else calms them, we offer a milk bottle, but if we are at that point even that doesn't always help.

We have tried giving them a bowl of oatmeal before bed, thinking a full heavy belly will help them sleep longer. It didn't. We have tried soothing music - makes no difference. We have tried getting them used to just being in their cribs playing - they hate it. We have tried putting them to sleep using a steam shower - which usually works but takes a lot of time and effort. We have tried letting them stay up later - they just get over tired and cry more. We have tried keeping a air purifier in their room that creates a white noise so they can't hear each others noise as much, but it disd't seem to help much. For awhile we took to walking them in their stroller until they fell asleep. And now, as a last resort because we are soooo exhausted by all this, we are taking them for car rides to put them to sleep. It works. They are asleep within 30 minutes and usually stay asleep. I have noticed they are waking less at night since we started this too.

Ok naysayers (I know you are out there reading this) - before you judge me - I am well aware that this is not a healthy habit for them. But this lack of sleep, this every night struggle, is taking its toll. Not just on me and my own lack of sleep. My 9 year old is suffering because of it too. He has to listen to the struggle and the cries when he is trying to sleep and it upsets and frustrates him too. It is affecting our marriage to a point. We go to bed exhausted and irritable and don't spend the time together that we need. Then we wake up tired and angry and it starts our day off horribly. We have to do something to preserve the sanity and peace in our family. So if driving babies around in a car every night for 30 minutes is what it takes, I'm gonna do it.

So I guess what it comes down to is this: No two babies are the same and while one method may work for one baby it may not work for another. When you have multiples this is compounded even further! One triplet may be a good sleeper but never really has the chance because of being woken up by another. Cry it out may work for one triplet but not for the others but you never really get the chance to know. Prematurity and health issues do have their part in it as well as the lack of space issue. And lets face it - despite ALL of this it could just be their genetic make up! They might just not need as much sleep as most babies.

So if I can get the boys to sleep by driving them in the car, I'm gonna do it. If I can keep them sleeping by picking them up and giving them a bottle in the middle of the night, I'm gonna do it. If they wake at 5am and refuse to go back to sleep or play quietly in their crib, then I have to accept that too. If they don't take naps longer than 30 minutes, there is nothing else I can do to fix it. This is the way it is. My babies are rotten sleepers - so be it. This is the way God made them. It sucks for us now but I know they will grow out of it eventually. In the mean time, if they only sleep like this:

...I'll take what I can get. :)

When I was pregnant with the boys I started this blog to keep my friends and family up to date with progress of the pregnancy and the babies themselves. Also during that time, I spent a lot of time in forums for multiple moms. When I realized that the forums weren't all that helpful I took this blog and made it a little more involved in hopes of helping other mamas like me. Part of why I didn't like the forums was because I was met with a lot of cynical and bitter "tenured" mamas who didn't seem to like that I was excited about having triplets. They warned: it's going to be harder than you think, it will take its toll on your marriage, your life will never be the same, your body will never be the same, it's expensive, triplets are hard hard hard!! Well, obviously I knew all those things in theory, but I didn't appreciate their approach toward me or their attitudes. I am a fairly positive person and this just turned me off completely; it put me on the defensive.

When I transformed my blog into this site to help others I was verbally attacked by some of these moms. I got several nasty comments, one so nasty it put me in tears and made me want to press charges against this woman, but she posted anonymously. I even went so far to track her IP address to a city in northern New Jersey. These nay-sayers said I would never be able to keep up with my blog and said "it will fall away just like all the others who think they are better than the forum". I was determined to prove them wrong. And I did great until I went back to work.

In June, when the babies were 6 months old I went back to work and then we lost our in home nursing care and all of a sudden blogging became so much more difficult. The last update I gave on the boys was last August! Ugh! I feel angry with myself for letting so much time go by, for letting those bitter moms who said I couldn't do it think they were right for even one minute. I have been approached by so many people who say they found my blog helpful that I feel like I am letting them down. Our friends and family who look forward to updates on the boys have been left in limbo. To you, I am so sorry!

It's not an excuse, but definitely a valid reason that I am so physically exhausted at the end of each day I can't fathom the thought of sitting in front of the computer trying to formulate intelligent thoughts! Not to mention, when I do have free time, quiet time, I want to spend that time with my husband or with a book or a movie. Yet each night while I lay in bed, I write blog posts in my head. In the shower in the morning I think of the pictures I want to post. While cooking dinner in the evening I think about the cute video I shot the day before and how excited our family in California would be to see it. While driving home from work I think about the funny thing Mitch did that morning that I know would make people laugh. When we have a bad night, the babies are crying and vomiting I think if I wrote about it and how we deal with it, I could help others who are struggling with similar issues. I think about all these things all the time and I write these blog posts in my head. Unfortunately, there is no bluetooth connection from my brain to my website that allows me to upload these blog entries wirelessly and effortlessly!! (Someone should seriously invent that! - lol)

So here I am, 6 months later, to give you a brief summary of the backlog in my brain!

In August, the triplets were 8 months old. At their 8mo check up Eli weighed 14lbs, Nate weighed in at 16lbs 10oz and Mitchell 15lbs 9oz. Growing boys!

We took our first (and so far ONLY!) road trip with them. We drove from Tampa to Atlanta, a trip that normally takes about 7 hours. On the way up we made it in 8! On the way home, it took 11. Overall the boys did very well for being in their car seats for so long, though we haven't been in a hurry to try it again! :) While in Atlanta we got to introduce the boys to my extended family, and also Matt's cousin and his wife and their daughter. In addition, we were lucky to coincidentally be there the same week Matt's brother-in-law Frank was there on business so he got to meet the boys for the first time too! We also had them in the pool for the first time while in Atlanta. They loved it!

Though still not sitting up on their own yet, the boys loved to play with their toys, especially their jumparoo! Here is Nate bouncing :)

Also in late August Jordan started third grade. I can hardly believe it!

September the boys turned 9 months old and got teeth! I was up with Nate (after bedtime of course) and he was chewing on my finger and "ouch!" I felt a sharp little tooth! It was amazing because two days later Mitch got his first one, then two days later Eli got his! A week later Nate got his second tooth, two days later Mitch got his and two days after that Eli got his second too. It was awesome. And other than a bit of runny nose they didn't seem any fussier than usual.

Also in late September the boys started sitting on their own. They were quite shaky at first but quickly caught on.

Because the babies were still not sleeping through the night and gave us a really tough time going to sleep at all I attempted sleep training in September by letting the boys "cry it out" at night and naps. It seems to help, a little. Naps became a little easier though they still only sleep 30-40 min on average and hardly ever at the same time. Bedtime did NOT get easier and ultimately we gave up on CIO deciding it just wasn't for us. The babies would egg each other on and cry so hard one would inevitable end up vomiting. Then we had crying babies and vomit to clean up and no one sleeping. Not good.

In September we made field trips to the Florida Aquarium and Lowry Park Zoo. The boys love outings! Our friend Lucas turned one and we went to his birthday party too.

In September Jordan started his third season of little league. This season he was in the "minor" league which means it was a little more serious than in previous seasons. The kids had to do the pitching and the catching. For the first time Jordan was on a full team so it was  a good experience for him to learn team play.

In October the triplets turned ten months old, 7 1/2 adjusted. The began getting on all fours and rocking like they wanted to crawl.  They got their top teeth in. Our weather finally broke and it was a little cooler out. We took advantage of the first nice weekend and took the babies for a walk along the causeway. They sat in the grass for the first time and were just enamored by it!

We found a house that we want to buy and nearby there is this awesome park. We took the kids there to enjoy the afternoon. The babies got to go on the swings for the first time and Jordan got to meet some kids who live in the neighborhood. Eli did NOT like the swings so he spent time playing in the wood chips.

Late in October we went to Sweetfield Farms where we got to eat kettle corn, pick out a pumpkin, pet some farm animals, make our way through a cornfield maze, and generally enjoy farm life for a day. It was a grand time! We even met another family with triplets. They were 11.

Jordan was with his dad for Halloween and we didn't really have anywhere to take the babies so we didn't dress them up in a costume. We did buy them some cute Halloween jammies though!

November began our busy time, which is saying a lot because our lives are ALWAYS busy! Jordan turned 9 this month and the babies 11mos. At the beginning of the month we went to a picnic at Fort Desoto with local triplet families. About 12 families attended and it was amazing to see so many triplets! And encouraging to know we are not alone in this craziness! The weather was beautiful and the location was perfect. My good friend and professional photographer Christy Waldner (www.seven27studios.com) was there to capture the moment and she did awesome.

Jordan turned 9 on Nov 22nd and we threw him a Lego party! We invited 5 kids to sleep-over and it was CRAZY! The boys had a great time though. We had a lego cake and lego-head cake pops. Jordan's dad bought him tickets to Legoland and all the kids bought him legos. We played lego creationary, angry birds, and guess what I am game. The boys stayed up until 4am! It was a long night! lol...

Of course November brought Thanksgiving which was pretty uneventful though we got to visit with some family. But best of all November brought crawling babies! Mitch and Nate started crawling and Eli followed suit about 3 weeks later. Check out this awesome video Matt captured...

Just a few more photos from November....

December!! The month we waited a year for! The triplets turned one year old this month! Eli began crawling. Mitch began pulling up on furniture and walking along it. We celebrated our first Christmas with the babies at home. Our friends and family from out of town visited and got to meet the babies for the first time. It was a magical awesome BUSY time!

At the babies 12-mo check-up they all had ear infections! But their weights were good - Eli 17lbs, Mitch 18lbs and Nate almost 20lbs. They all have four teeth on top and two on the bottom. Doc said they look great! They are doing great for their adjusted age and are getting closer and closer to their actual age in development. We had our first professional photo shoot in December and the pics turned out great, thanks Christy!! Check these out...

For their birthday we decided to do something a little different. Since the babies were so premature and in the hospital for so long we didn't really get to have that "visit our new baby" thing in the beginning. And when they did come home they were on monitors and oxygen and feeding tubes. It was a crazy time. So for their birthday we held an open house and invited everyone! We took pictures with everyone who had a hand in helping us through the first year. In addition to our close friends and family we invited NICU nurses, our in-home nurses, people who brought us meals, neighbors, etc. From 9am until 9pm we had people in and out of the house. It was a lot of fun!

Our theme was Mickey Mouse and each baby got his own extra large cupcake frosted in their signature color. I spent two days making Mickey Mouse cake pops and we gave those to our guests.

The babies had a grand time, especially with their smash cakes!

We were lucky to visit with lots of out-of-town friends and family in December. First, in the middle of the month my dear friends Robin and Josh came down from Michigan with their 4 kids and we met them at Disney for day. It was so great to see them! And the babies did considerably well at a theme park all day.

Matt's sister Nicole and family came into town from Arizona for Christmas and got to meet the babies for the first time. What a great time we had with them! Brianna and Jake loved hanging out with the babies too. Then a couple days after Christmas Matt's best friends Brad and KC and their boys came to Florida from North Carolina. We had an absolute blast seeing everyone. It was sad to see them all go home!

Christmas was so special this year. The babies and Jordan each got one big present from Santa. We spent the morning in our PJ's playing with our new toys. It was great to see the kids enjoying themselves. Jordan helped the babies open their gifts and he spent time playing with them. He is really a great big brother!

OK so you see it's been a very busy few months! Do I get some sort of award for longest blog post ever? lol... BTW, it took me three days to finish this. But moving forward I hope to post something every few days, even if its nothing more than a picture. I also hope to find some time to update other areas of the site. Thanks for reading and following along on our journey.

Here are some the many things I've learned from being a triplet mom! Some are things other moms taught me, some we've learned along the way. Would love if you added a comment with something you've learned to add to the list!